How to talk about drugs!

Each day more children and teenagers are being exposed to drugs. We know that the exposition can have different sources such as the social media, friends and even relatives. This week's post don’t have the intention to discuss the hereditary factors or environmental predispositions and also individual or family factors that can lead to drug abuse, such as social vulnerability and low self-esteem.

My goal is to help parents and relatives talking with the children and teenagers about drugs, since talking about it can cause discomfort and embarassment to parents and fear and curiosity to children and teenagers.

As I mentioned in others posts, talking to children should start with what they already know and their understanding of the subject. In this way, don’t try to anticipate conversations, as it will probably cause confusion. It is better to pay attention to the words and expressions the child uses.

It’s a good start to try to talk about food. Discuss about which food the child eats or not and explain that some foods are potentially harmful, such as soda and sweets. Probably she’ll understand this concept.

With time talk about medicines. The importance they have for our health and how we have to be careful to take them, because we just don’t take pills without a purpose. Probably this talk we bring up some curiosity and questions. Take time so the child understand the concept and try to answer the questions. If you need help, don’t hesitate to search on the internet or with professionals.

Alcoholic and beverages and tobacco can be introduce later. Talk about situations where these drugs can appear. Advise them not to accept drinks and food from strangers.

We know that lectures and scoldings may drive away your kids and it is not the best approach for this scenario. Talk openly, respecting yourself and your child about what is leading to use and reason.

Remember that no one likes being interrogated and that there needs to be trust and love during the conversation. The questions are important for the adults to understand what is happening so they can help. But listen carefully to your child and do not judge. Try to expose your values and positioning regarding drugs and attitudes you should take together as a family.

See you next time,
Laura

SOURCE: MONTEIRO, E. A culpa é da mãe: reflexões e confissões acerca da maternidade. Editora Summus: São Paulo, 2012