Monday, July 9, 2018

Can you be alone?



At some point of your life you probably came across situations when you had to be alone, either because your partner was travelling; your children were at their grandparents house and many others. To some these situations can be dealt with no problem, but to others much harder. In these moments we can feel lost, not knowing what to do and often even bothered by this feeling. Of course it all depends on your age and the situation you are in, but overall this requires some reflection.


In this post, being alone means you are doing something by yourself and moreover feeling good about that, without having the presence of another person. For example, reading a book, watching a movie or serie, running at the park and more. Keeping in mind that there is a big difference between being alone and feeling alone.

Being alone is different than feeling alone. This feeling is linked to one's personal issues, their life history and their subjetive perception, as well as the emotional and psychological aspects. Therefore, it is very important being able to distinguish what is 'being alone' and 'feeling alone'. The former refers to something transient, momentary and fleeting, while the latter has greater meaning and depth.

In our society being alone is still seen with a lot of preconceptions and negative stigmas. Concepts that were built over the years having as central concept that for someone to be happy they must always be interacting with others. Feelings such as sadness and sorrow are often associated with people who are alone.

We know that the human being is a social being, and it is in his nature to be in constant interaction with other people. But there is no problem being alone in some situations and this is not related necessarily tied to melancholic or depressive aspects. We must raise awareness and demystify the difference between the concepts and find pleasure and meaning when you are alone.

When you are alone, it can emerge a sense of self-knowledge and rediscovery of who we are and what we want to do; answers can emerge, helping our process of decision-making and the way of dealing to others. So we feel our energies recharged!

See you next time,
Laura

*Illustration: Yaoyao Ma Van 

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